Your question for the day. Who screens your content? Do you use online filters? Do you have the personal assistant? Or, do you just take everything as it happens?
We use filters and our intuition to just say turn it off. At the moment, we're only looking at job hunting stuff, sports scores and holistic material. Literally everything else is off. We won't intentionally trigger you by listing all of this. Safe to say though that at times your system just screams enough. You literally feel like you can't handle it anymore.
If it's your job, that's one thing. If it's not, how do you cope with this? Depending on where you are in your overall healing, you have to protect yourself. The ulgy truth is that the corporate MSM is not your friend in this. The only thing that matters is ratings and profit.
Therefore, strike back in their profit margin. If millions did this, lots of stuff would change. However, we have to keep in mind we're not responsible for this. We can't singlehandedly bring down megacorporations overnight.
Instead, we set up boundaries and politely stick to them. Find other things to watch/read/listen to. Then, see what happens.
Since there's no instant cure for trauma, how do you deal with it? Break it down into small increments so it feels "manageable".
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Fighting to Hang Onto the Edge
Another really hot day. The pool is too hot to swim in. Good thing we stocked up on tea, lemonade and other stuff.
We feel like we're on the edge in some ways. Finally at times it feels like there's some moments of stability. We still believe that too much acidic stuff in your diet can make symptoms worse. However, you still scream
and have to fight to focus and not black out.
It feels like millions of flashbacks hit you all at once. Sights, sounds and terrifying things come out and you have to fight back to not fall apart. You also have to deal with all the other daily things as well. How do you deal with that?
We can't afford to go back to therapy right now. Which means using other sources in the meantime. We only call a crisis if we absolutely have to. Despite that, many times people don't want to talk to you because in their view it's "not a crisis".
How then do you define a crisis? Is there some checklist that you must meet first before someone will even talk to you? Other than one therapist, we literally feel like no one else has ever really listened in person. Or apparently cared?
What kind of effects does that have on someone? The terror is there at times even though you can look around and see that you're at home. The front door is locked. No one's going to break in and kill you. However, you still feel safer having a weapon close by just in case.
You try not to torture yourself over stuff that you'll never have. You try to keep going in the most positive way that you can. But you still have the fear and symptoms.
Where do you go for help? Do you feel like anyone's paying attention to you? If no one is, how do you cope?
We just try to keep our balance.
We feel like we're on the edge in some ways. Finally at times it feels like there's some moments of stability. We still believe that too much acidic stuff in your diet can make symptoms worse. However, you still scream
and have to fight to focus and not black out.
It feels like millions of flashbacks hit you all at once. Sights, sounds and terrifying things come out and you have to fight back to not fall apart. You also have to deal with all the other daily things as well. How do you deal with that?
We can't afford to go back to therapy right now. Which means using other sources in the meantime. We only call a crisis if we absolutely have to. Despite that, many times people don't want to talk to you because in their view it's "not a crisis".
How then do you define a crisis? Is there some checklist that you must meet first before someone will even talk to you? Other than one therapist, we literally feel like no one else has ever really listened in person. Or apparently cared?
What kind of effects does that have on someone? The terror is there at times even though you can look around and see that you're at home. The front door is locked. No one's going to break in and kill you. However, you still feel safer having a weapon close by just in case.
You try not to torture yourself over stuff that you'll never have. You try to keep going in the most positive way that you can. But you still have the fear and symptoms.
Where do you go for help? Do you feel like anyone's paying attention to you? If no one is, how do you cope?
We just try to keep our balance.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
How's Your Balance?
We're struggling to try and keep our ph balance to then hopefully control symptoms better. One key? Think of the body and mind as one system. Stress can then lower everything from seratonin and dopamine to affecting your thyroid and other areas as well.
This means changing parts of your diet. Avoid chemicals as much as possible. Also stimulants. Does this mean a boring diet with no fun? No. Just be aware of the effects of things on you and why you're doing it.
For us, lemon juice in water, tea and other things helps the ph balance (it's more alkaline). You just have to experiment to find what's best for you.
This means changing parts of your diet. Avoid chemicals as much as possible. Also stimulants. Does this mean a boring diet with no fun? No. Just be aware of the effects of things on you and why you're doing it.
For us, lemon juice in water, tea and other things helps the ph balance (it's more alkaline). You just have to experiment to find what's best for you.
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
New Layout
Bear with us as we add new stuff to the layout.
Who's in the new pic? Cool dude Mickey Hart (Grateful Dead, Planet Drum and other stuff). He's a firm believer in the healing power of rhythm. It can help you to use your chi for healing lots of different problems. We've found that it can be helpful. We all have our bad days. But if you take maybe 15 minutes a day and just pay attention to your body and nothing else, it can help somewhat in coping with symptoms.
Who's in the new pic? Cool dude Mickey Hart (Grateful Dead, Planet Drum and other stuff). He's a firm believer in the healing power of rhythm. It can help you to use your chi for healing lots of different problems. We've found that it can be helpful. We all have our bad days. But if you take maybe 15 minutes a day and just pay attention to your body and nothing else, it can help somewhat in coping with symptoms.
Time to Catch Up
Sorry to be offline for a while. Lots of stuff to do and too many passwords to keep track of. It seems to be ok now.
How are your symptoms? In the past few weeks, there's been a lot of despair and being bombarded with flashbacks. Sights, sounds, colors and phrases that set off a chain that you have to fight your way through. On an intuitive level, you don't have a choice. You have to fight back. If you don't, you'll fall apart.
You fight to wake up and focus. Then all day long you keep screaming and trying to stay focused to be able to do everything else. At times you're this close to snapping or blacking out. However, you can't do that. If you don't fight back you'll fall apart.
We can't go back to therapy due to money. Which means new jobs first, stable income. Then go back. We've tried different sources to see if they could give us extra ideas to help us cope. Everyone's saying we're not therapists, so we can't do that. We'll just keep trying other places and see what happens.
The despair and terror is there. On the other hand, we try to keep our balance as best we can. There's no point in torturing yourself over things that you'll never have. That doesn't mean that we're not like every other normal person with emotions and bad days with this. At times, we turn things off and just go sit and look out the window. We reassure each other in different things:
It's not our fault
We can't control what others do and say
We're entitled to be heard
We know all of those things. However, the despair is still there. Other things are there too. Feeling like you're somehow abnormal or damaged (for lack of a better word). So obviously nobody wants anything to do with you.
We know that's not true. But that fear is still there.
How do you cope with that? How do you keep your balance and some sense of normalcy?
Did you know that it's illegal in the States for rape crisis centers to talk about guy survivors in any of their content? If you do, you get no government funding at all. Why in 2011? Who knows.
Does this happen in your area?
Thanks for the growing support. Since we have no ad budget, we're using quality content and word-of-mouth promotion. Please spread the word as much as possible (unless it endangers your safety or overall healing). It would be nice to save the world. First though is your protection.
How are your symptoms? In the past few weeks, there's been a lot of despair and being bombarded with flashbacks. Sights, sounds, colors and phrases that set off a chain that you have to fight your way through. On an intuitive level, you don't have a choice. You have to fight back. If you don't, you'll fall apart.
You fight to wake up and focus. Then all day long you keep screaming and trying to stay focused to be able to do everything else. At times you're this close to snapping or blacking out. However, you can't do that. If you don't fight back you'll fall apart.
We can't go back to therapy due to money. Which means new jobs first, stable income. Then go back. We've tried different sources to see if they could give us extra ideas to help us cope. Everyone's saying we're not therapists, so we can't do that. We'll just keep trying other places and see what happens.
The despair and terror is there. On the other hand, we try to keep our balance as best we can. There's no point in torturing yourself over things that you'll never have. That doesn't mean that we're not like every other normal person with emotions and bad days with this. At times, we turn things off and just go sit and look out the window. We reassure each other in different things:
It's not our fault
We can't control what others do and say
We're entitled to be heard
We know all of those things. However, the despair is still there. Other things are there too. Feeling like you're somehow abnormal or damaged (for lack of a better word). So obviously nobody wants anything to do with you.
We know that's not true. But that fear is still there.
How do you cope with that? How do you keep your balance and some sense of normalcy?
Did you know that it's illegal in the States for rape crisis centers to talk about guy survivors in any of their content? If you do, you get no government funding at all. Why in 2011? Who knows.
Does this happen in your area?
Thanks for the growing support. Since we have no ad budget, we're using quality content and word-of-mouth promotion. Please spread the word as much as possible (unless it endangers your safety or overall healing). It would be nice to save the world. First though is your protection.
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